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Solitude vs loneliness

Some days carry a heaviness that words cannot fully explain. For years now, I’ve felt a quiet loneliness — not the kind where you have no one, but the kind where you have everything around you, yet something inside feels empty. A solitary soul, or maybe just a mind that gets tired, frustrated, and overwhelmed for a few minutes before finding its balance again.


Today started like that — a strange, heavy feeling.

I needed to go to the hospital. My body was tired, the pain was real, and I couldn’t escape it this time. Usually, I try to avoid hospitals altogether. They remind me of things I don’t want to remember. Still, I needed money to go.

When I asked her, she paused. Not out of rejection, not out of resentment — just because of human moment of thinking(?), of processing. Life isn’t always smooth for any of us. She said she would borrow it from a friend and send it. And I don't felt angry, but appreciate that. Truly.

But meanwhile, I asked another friend… and she sent the money immediately, without a single question or hesitation. It surprised me — that quiet kind of kindness that comes from people who don’t make noise about it.

The hospital visit came and went. People, patients, doctors, nurses the place is rushing, still not as usual according to the friends. Painful, tiring, but done.

Later that night, after the discharge, we went for a friend’s birthday celebration. A strange contrast — from hospital beds to laughter, cake, and casual conversation. But life is like that, a mix of sharp edges and soft corners.

We ended up talking about loneliness — how it hides behind smiles, responsibilities, careers, families, and routines. I wanted to say my own truth: that sometimes I feel deeply lonely even when I have everything — work, friends, responsibilities, knowledge. Yet the words stayed inside me.

But soon, in a lighter moment, I spoke about something funny and philosophical — “the gentleman’s escape from Madagascar.” A simple line, yet it felt like a metaphor for life: sometimes you want to escape somewhere far, even if you don’t say it out loud. Even if it’s just for a moment.

Tonight, as I write this, I realize something.

Loneliness doesn’t mean we are unloved.

Silence doesn’t mean we are forgotten.

And people who take a moment to respond are not our enemies — they are simply human.

Maybe I’m not truly lonely.

Maybe I am just learning to understand myself in moments when the world feels too heavy.

And maybe — just maybe — the quiet connections, the unexpected kindness, the late-night conversations, and even the hospital visits are all part of the journey of being alive.

Still can't sleep..what next to write?? ✍️

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